{"id":1324,"date":"2024-12-01T12:24:39","date_gmt":"2024-12-01T09:24:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/?p=1324"},"modified":"2026-03-29T09:13:02","modified_gmt":"2026-03-29T06:13:02","slug":"samimiyetin-ve-ozsayginin-gucu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/samimiyetin-ve-ozsayginin-gucu\/","title":{"rendered":"Samimiyetin ve \u00d6zsayg\u0131n\u0131n G\u00fcc\u00fc"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Baz\u0131 insanlar, ayn\u0131 konuda farkl\u0131 ki\u015filere farkl\u0131 y\u00fczler g\u00f6sterebiliyor. \u015eahsi menfaatleri i\u00e7in ya da sadece kendilerine \u201cne kadar iyi biri\u201d denilsin diye b\u00f6yle davrananlar var. Oysa insan neyse o olmal\u0131. Bazen insanlar, oldu\u011fu gibi davranmak yerine ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcnde daha farkl\u0131 bir izlenim b\u0131rakmay\u0131 tercih ediyor. Bu, sadece kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki insan\u0131 aldatmak de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda kendine olan sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 da zedelemek demektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yeni tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z birini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. \u0130lk etapta ne kadar <a><\/a>anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131, samimi, s\u0131cak oldu\u011funu fark edersiniz. Hatta bazen, \u201cBu ki\u015fiyle iyi ki tan\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u201d dersiniz. Ama zaman ge\u00e7er. Tan\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k ilerledik\u00e7e ayn\u0131 ki\u015finin, daha \u00f6nce ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcyle kar\u015f\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feyler y\u00fcz\u00fcnden sizi ele\u015ftirdi\u011fini, hatta gerginlik \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz. Bu noktada bir ger\u00e7ekle y\u00fczle\u015firsiniz: Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7taki o samimiyet maskeden ibaretti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Mevl\u00e2na\u2019n\u0131n bir s\u00f6z\u00fc vard\u0131r:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Ya oldu\u011fun gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn ya da g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn gibi ol.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu s\u00f6z, asl\u0131nda iki y\u00fczl\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn tam kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda duran bir insanl\u0131k dersi. Kendini oldu\u011fu gibi g\u00f6stermek, hem insan\u0131n \u00f6z sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131r\u0131r hem de \u00e7evresindekilerin g\u00fcvenini kazanmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flar. Ama insanlar, maskeler takarak \u00e7evrelerini etkilemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131nda, o maskeler d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde geriye hi\u00e7bir \u015fey kalmaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir ili\u015fkide ger\u00e7eklik ve samimiyet her \u015feydir. Kimse, uzun vadede kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakinin rol yapmas\u0131n\u0131 ya da sahte davranmas\u0131n\u0131 kabul edemez. \u0130nsan, arkada\u015fl\u0131kta, dostlukta, hatta evlilikte bile neyse o olmal\u0131. Kendini ger\u00e7ek haliyle tan\u0131tan ki\u015fi, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki insana \u201cBeni b\u00f6yle kabul et\u201d demi\u015f olur. B\u00f6ylece ileride ne bir hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 olur ne de bir g\u00fcven kayb\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Etraf\u0131n\u0131za bir bak\u0131n. Ka\u00e7 ki\u015fi, menfaati bitti\u011finde y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc \u00e7eviriyor? Ka\u00e7 ki\u015fi, s\u0131rf takdir edilmek i\u00e7in maskeler tak\u0131yor? Eminim siz de bir\u00e7o\u011funu fark etmi\u015fsinizdir. Bu y\u00fczden, insan\u0131n kendine \u015funu sormas\u0131 laz\u0131m: Ger\u00e7ekten oldu\u011fum gibi mi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyorum, yoksa s\u0131rf insanlar beni sevsin diye ba\u015fka biri mi oluyorum? E\u011fer cevap, \u201cEvet, bazen ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcne ho\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcnmek i\u00e7in de\u011fi\u015fiyorum\u201d ise, durup d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir insan, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc kaybetmeden de de\u011ferli olabilir. \u0130lk ad\u0131m, d\u00fcr\u00fcst bir \u015fekilde kendi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011ferlendirmektir. Etraf\u0131n\u0131zdaki insanlar sizi oldu\u011funuz gibi mi seviyor, yoksa g\u00f6sterdi\u011finiz y\u00fcz\u00fc m\u00fc? E\u011fer bir maske ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 fark ediyorsan\u0131z, onu yava\u015f\u00e7a \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131n ve ger\u00e7ekten kim oldu\u011funuzu ke\u015ffetmeye ba\u015flay\u0131n. Samimiyet, \u00f6nce kendine d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmakla ba\u015flar. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sizi siz yapan, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi de\u011fil, sizin \u00f6z de\u011ferlerinizdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>\u201cK\u0131yamet g\u00fcn\u00fc Allah kat\u0131nda insanlar\u0131n en k\u00f6t\u00fclerinin \u015funlara bir y\u00fczle, bunlara di\u011fer bir y\u00fczle gelen ikiy\u00fczl\u00fcler oldu\u011funu g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn!\u201d [Hadis]<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<script src=\"https:\/\/voice.digime.com.tr\/sdk\/voiceme.js\" data-api-key=\"aa664d7b20e1ec4416ddefb799f0aba7\"data-selector=\".single-post-text\"><\/script>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Baz\u0131 insanlar, ayn\u0131 konuda farkl\u0131 ki\u015filere farkl\u0131 y\u00fczler g\u00f6sterebiliyor. \u015eahsi menfaatleri i\u00e7in ya da sadece kendilerine \u201cne kadar iyi biri\u201d&#8230; <\/p>\n<div class=\"trm-el-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/samimiyetin-ve-ozsayginin-gucu\/\" class=\"trm-label trm-label-color\"><span>Devam\u0131<\/span> <i class=\"fas fa-arrow-right\"><\/i><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":873,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[43],"tags":[60,62,61],"class_list":["post-1324","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-insan","tag-iki-yuzluluk","tag-oz-saygi","tag-samimiyet"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1324","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1324"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1324\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2028,"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1324\/revisions\/2028"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/873"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1324"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1324"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rafetcaglar.com.tr\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1324"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}